At a bridal shower for a dear friend this weekend, I watched as people started to arrive, presents piling up, sounds of giggles and laughter filled the air...I watched the bride-to-be so happy, grinning from ear to ear, beaming with love and excitement...I smiled watching her open every gift and watched her squeal with glee, she was so grateful, so humbled each time...
I started thinking back to that time in my life, where everything was exciting and the future was so bright. I remember thinking everything would be better after we were married. I chuckle now thinking about it, because laundry is still laundry and cleaning is still cleaning, and after the newness of the newlywed stage is over, the laundry and the cleaning are still just laundry and cleaning...
I remember saying our vows, they were heartfelt and meaningful then, but how much more they mean now...We have endured the reality of those words in ways I would have never imagined.
It is so easy to forget the value and excitement of something after the newness has worn off. After the parties are over. What a tragedy to forget what it was like before, when you yearned for something so, only to lose the joy of it finally being yours.
I often say the same thing of our infertility journey...sometimes I think if everyone had to go through something like this, it would change parenting forever...there would be less Facebook complaints about the time-change when babies wake up too early, and less mentions of never being able to finish a sentence...parents would remember the times that their longing for a little voice to interrupt or wake them up too early would take their breath away...they would remember what it was like to ache for a child that might never come.
I cried on the way home from that shower. Overwhelmed with thankfulness for my husband and our life, the love we have. The patience and grace he gives me. Even though it has been a hard season, there was a time I did not think he would be mine, and he is...and it is so much better than I could have imagined.
It is so easy to lose perspective, and a giddy, gleaming bride-to-be is just what I needed to remind me of how blessed I am to have had that too...to still have it.